WHEN THE CUSTODIAL PARENT WANTS TO RELOCATE, WHAT ARE THE NON-CUSTODIAL
By Sari M. Friedman, Legal Counsel
Fathers' Rights Association (NYS & Long Island)
It has been almost two years since the Court of Appeals, in Tropea v. Tropea,
changed the standard in deciding relocation cases. At first glance, it
appeared as if the Tropea decision would provide an open door for relocation
by the custodial parent. But that did not quite come to pass. Today, the
primary concern in granting relocation is not the custodial parent's
needs. It is the best interests of the child. To understand how this might
affect you, let's look at some of the rulings since the Tropea decision.
In Yelverton v. Stokes (3d Dept)1, a case decided earlier this year, the
mother and father, who were
divorced in 1993, had joint
custody with the child residing with the mother. The father had visitation every
other weekend and two evenings each week, a provision that was to be renegotiated
by July 1996, before the child entered kindergarten.
However, in 1996, the mother remarried a man who lives and works in California.
She commenced an action requesting permission to relocate the child to
California. The father opposed the move, and additionally, he moved for
custody of the child.
The court denied relocation and granted the father custody. Why? because
the court determined it was in "the best interests of the child."
The only reason for the move was that the mother's new husband lived
in California. However, she failed to prove, by a preponderance of the
evidence, that the relocation would be in the child's best interests.
The court also found the mother had many deficiencies.
With such a move, the Child would be in a place that was unfamiliar to
him. The new husband had only a developing relationship with the child
and no experience with children. On the other hand, the child had a very
close relationship with his father and his father's new wife. The
court also considered the child's desires, the stability of remaining
in the geographical area of his birth, and closeness to his extended family
and friends. The law guardian recommended custody be granted to the father.
The Appellate Court affirmed.
In another case earlier this year, Fragola v. Fragola (2d Dept.)2, the
father moved for custody of his child after the mother had relocated.
The court denied his application. But the Appellate Court reversed the
decision saying that, "(it) is axiomatic that custody determinations
are to be made upon consideration of all relevant circumstances that promote
the best interests of the child. The case was sent back to Family Court
for a new hearing.
Last year, in Christoffersen v. Gringas (2d Dept.)3, the mother was allowed
to relocate with the child. The mother, who had been sole supporter of
the child, had lost her job and was unable to find a job where she was
living. She was offered and accepted a position in Pennsylvania. The court
also determined the father had infrequent contact with the child and failed
to pay child support.
In a most recent case, Matter of Sara P. v. Richard T.4, during the marriage,
the father stayed at HOME and was the primary care giver. When the parties
were divorced, they were given joint custody and equal time with the child.
After the parents separated, the father found employment and arranged
for child care. The mother was ordered to contribute weekly for child
care and to assume a portion of child care expenses. In 1996, the mother
remarried a man who lives and works in South Carolina where her parents
live. She relocated there, returning to New York every two weeks for her
visit with the child.
After a brief period, the mother sought to have the child relocate to South
Carolina and to obtain residential custody. The court determined that
residential custody should remain with the father. They reached this decision
after considering the mother's reasons for seeking the move, the quality
of the parental relationship, the feasibility of preserving the relationships
of the child and the non-relocating parent, and assessing which parent
is better able to provide the nurturing and guidance the child needs.
The Court found that the mother's move was based on personal preference
and not family or financial considerations, nor the needs of the child.
They further determined that the father was more in tune with the child's
needs. The joint custody arrangement was left in place with extensive
visitation rights for the mother.
Factors the Court Considers
As illustrated in the cases cited here, the factors that the court will
consider in a relocation case include, but are not limited to.
- Each parent's reason for seeking or opposing the move
- Quality of the relationship between the child and custodial and non-custodial parent
- Impact of the move on the quantity and quality of the child's future
contact with the non-custodial parent including distance of the location
in miles and time, suitable visitation arrangements, contribution of money
- Degree to which custodial parent's and child's life may be enhanced
economically, emotionally and educationally by the move
- Wishes of the child
- Stability in the child' life including availability of extended family
It would seem obvious that the best way to protect your rights is to exercise
them. That means utilizing all your visitation with your child, keeping
your child support current, and making regular payments toward unusual
amounts (medical bills, for example) that you cannot afford to pay in
full. Be as active in your child's life as you can be. Finally, If
the custodial parent seeks to relocate, do not solely oppose the relocation.
In addition, seek custody.
Tropea has not turned relocation into a free for all for custodial parents
as originally feared. But what it can do is provide a new opportunity
to review custody agreements and orders. This is something you should
want to discuss with your Long Island divorce attorney.
Call the firm today.
Yelverton v. Stokes, - A.D.2d -, - N.Y.S., 2d - (3d Dept., 1998).
Fragola v. Fragola , 666 N.Y.S.2d 951 (2d Dept., 1998).
Christoffersen v. Gringas , 663 N.Y.S. 265 (2d Dept., 1997).
Matter of Sara P. v, Richard T ., NYLJ 3/13/98, p., 32, col. 6.