While many people assume
divorce is a highly emotional and expensive process, there are some couples who
are able to end their marriage on good and respectful terms without breaking the bank.
mediation is an attempt to help couples settle contested issues and reach a final
agreement. An unbiased mediator (a neutral third party) is responsible
for serving both parties equally, encouraging open communication and problem
solving, and helping couples work out every detail of the divorce.
The following are the main benefits of divorce mediation:
Less expensive – Rather than paying for separate lawyers for each party, couples
interested in mediation will only work with one mediator. Individual meetings
and communications with attorneys can really add up, along with court
fees during the trial proceedings.
Faster process – A contested divorce can take up to a year or more to be resolved.
Scheduling a court date, getting two attorneys to agree on the court date,
and going through the discovery process on top of your busy schedule are
all causes of delay. By contrast, mediation only takes a few months. You
are given the flexibility to schedule meetings according to your schedule
without having to wait for a court date or meetings with attorneys.
Confidential – No one wants their personal affairs aired to the public. If a divorce
goes through the court system, every intimate detail is available to your
community. On the other hand, mediation is completely private. The only
person who will know the details of your divorce is your mediator during
Complete control – Instead of putting the decision-making in the hands of a judge,
the couple makes all of the decisions through mediation. The mediator
facilitates discussions between the parties to help them come to an agreement
on every issue of their divorce. While court litigation results in a win-lose
situation, mediation can make it possible for both parties to win.
Benefits children – When parents can work together to resolve their issues without
taking their divorce to court, it also means they can work together to
successfully co-parent their children.
However, mediation is not right for everyone. If your marriage involves
domestic violence or if you suspect your spouse is hiding assets and being
dishonest about the family’s finances, then it is best to go through
the court system to end your marriage. At
Friedman & Friedman, our Long Island mediator can evaluate your case and determine whether
or not mediation is suitable for your divorce.
For more information about divorce mediation in New York,
contact us and schedule a consultation today.